What Does The Bible Say About Christian Sex
Christian Sex In The Bible
What does the bible say about sex… and what are the commandments? What’s allowed and not allowed? What about anal sex? The goal of Christian Sex 101 is to encourage you to use many different techniques emotionally, physically, and spiritually that will increase your sexual pleasure and intimacy within your Christian marriage.
To answer the question of what the bible says about Christian Sex, we need to look in Bible scriptures. It makes absolutely no sense to apply philosophies without using the scriptures as a starting point and biblical foundation for our answers.
Remember this: God created sex for us to enjoy. He blessed it and made it GOOD! Here are a few scriptures that speak of sex. Study these scriptures if necessary in your own time. We don’t want to try and verse you in the Bible as much as we want to help you improve your sexual techniques. All the knowledge of scriptures will do you no good if you don’t TAKE ACTION!
Genesis 4:1
And Adam knew his wife, and she conceived.
Intimacy started with Adam and Eve.
Genesis 1:22
And God blessed them, saying, be fruitful, and multiply.”
Adam and Eve showed no indication of shame or hesitation regarding sex or their sexuality.
Genesis 2:25
“They were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.”
Exploring each other’s body is wonderful and nothing to be ashamed of.
Proverbs 5:18-19
“Let your fountain be blessed, and the wife of your youth…let her breasts satisfy you at all times; and always be enraptured with her love.”
Your wife was created for your enjoyment and pleasure, allow her body to satisfy you wholly.
Mark 10:6-9
“But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife; and [the two] shall be one flesh.”
You are your spouse’s “help-meet”.You were designed to “help-meet” the needs, goals and desires of your spouse. You have been joined together by God to create a life of sexual happiness together.
Hebrews 13:4
“Marriage is honorable in all and the bed undefiled.”
Remain aware of the fact that God created sex and anything that you and your spouse find exciting and pleasurable, within the confines of your marriage bed is honorable to Him.
Many Christian leaders make it a point to talk “around” the subject of Christian sexuality but they rarely dig into the deeper issue. What kind of sex, how often, what type of sex can Christians have?
Why Are People Ashamed of Christian Sexuality
Not necessarily that people are ashamed, but it’s more of a subject that is left under the rug. Afterall, it’s not a topic that we can just sprout off at the dinner table with our guests. It’s not usually appropriate and not usually called for, plus sex, in many circles is a subject that is personal and private. But on a deeper level overall, we’re scared to talk to our spouse about sex, and what we really want and what we really need… we act sometimes as if we are not ready to get all that God has for us because we’re so busy creating a long list of what –not-to-dos. We never even go as far as discussing how Christian sexuality is relative to pleasing God, because all this were intently created for His glory.
False ideas about sex and sexuality tend to have debilitating effects on the sanctity of Christian marriage. As Christians we really want to do what’s right and we know that we will be rewarded if we do the right things with a pure heart. When it comes to sex, we can take great confidence in the fact that God created sex for our enjoyment, so it is our rightful place to do just that.
Many Christian couples wonder, if there is such a thing as unholy sex. In our communication with other Christian married couples, we have been asked, “Are there any biblical boundaries to sex? We have found that most people ask because they want to be sure that they remain in the will of God, so that their marriage will not be cursed.
“ Sex is GOOD ! ”
There are many scriptures that refer to sex and pleasure and our belief based on those scriptures is that there is no right or wrong way to have Christian sex within your marriage. Your husband is your husband and your wife is your wife; what the two of you do to please each other is essentially “A” Okay. As long as there is mutual consent and respect for one another, sex in your marriage IS GOOD!
When God designed the act of sex it was GOOD, man came along and demoralized it. It is therefore our job as Christian married couples, to reinstate the excellence in sex. Because sex is what molds us together and connects us with each other (not just physically or emotionally but spiritually) we can rest in the fact that sex IS GOOD. Remember, sex can bring us closer to God and each other. It not only strengthens our marriages but it also causes us to relate differently in our relationship with others socially.
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September 28th, 2007 at 2:07 pm
Question on adultery. I’ve read the Bible some and I know that David committed adultery and murder and was punished. David had a ton of wives and concubines. The odd thing is that when he was told his punishment, it says that God would have given him more if he asked. Does this mean that God approves multiple wives and concubines? The follow question would be, is it wrong for a man to have a concubine (mistress)?
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