What The Bible Says to Christians About Anal Sex
I recently explained a brief overview of Anal Sex and how there are different opinions scattered throughout the Christian Community of whether it is right or wrong. One thing I did not mention was that, as the years go on, the popularity of the subject matter and the act of anal sex, will come to a daring rise due to the surge of homosexuality being popularized and legalized throughout the Country.
The reason why Christian Anal Sex is such a touchy issue for many people is because of it’s association to homosexuality. It’s been framed that way probably for the past decade and since the AIDS epedemic became a worldwide scare. I’ve said it before but the bible does not say in plain english “Anal Sex is a sin” but there are a few scriptures that people use to come to the conclusion, that God does not condone the act.
I don’t think anal sex is necessary in order to enjoy a good Christian sex life, but I do see how some people prefer it and I equally understand how many people do not enjoy it based on their worldview, preferences, and body-type, and understanding of the human anatomy. If we want to discuss the idea of having a better sex life as Christians, then it really starts with a better relationship and the foundation of a better sex life is going to almost always begin with better intimacy and romance. Without those two things, there is not much room to discuss the topic of anal sex and how it can fit into a Christian Marriage.
Anal sex requires time, patience, and more time, then it requires more patience. It is not something that a couple can jump right into and be off on their merry way. One of the main benefits of anal sex that husbands appreciate, though this is not discussed elsewhere, is that the anal sex offers a tighter grip on the male genital and this is often impressive and offers an entirely different sensation than that of the vaginal entrance. If the Christian wife is interested in providing her husband with anal sex, then she will certainly need to be open to the idea of anal sex or it will undoubtedly be an uncomfortable experience for both parties.
I wanted to provide some resources you can use to gain additional knowledge and pinpoint how different people in different social circles have different outlooks about anal sex. Obviously, gay Christians who engage in sexual activity can give you many scriptures that, in their mind, support anal sex.
Overall, anyone can use a scripture to justify any act they so chose by taking a bible verse or its collections, and reframing the story to fit their worldview. For that reason, I would say the best thing to do is talk it over with your spouse and pray about it. When I wrote the 7 Rules For Christian Marriage I based those rules on the most important things a relationship needs in order to enjoy a great and mutually satisfactory relationship. Afterall, it does not matter whether you have anal sex or oral sex, the main thing that matters is that you and your spouse have a relationship that allows you to discuss your desires openly, and be intimate with each other more often, and ultimately enjoy a better marriage…a marriage where you can be happy and satisfied with your sex life. That is the goal of the Sex In Christ
In fact, many Biblical passages allude to the act of anal sex between men and women. Lamentations 2:10 describes how “The virgins of Jerusalem have bowed their heads to the ground,” indicating how a virginal maidens should position themselves to receive anal sex. Another suggestive scripture tells of a woman’s pride in her “valley” (referring to her buttocks and the cleft between them) and entices her lover to ejaculate against her backside: “How boastful you are about the valleys! O backsliding daughter who trusts in her treasures, {saying,} ‘ Who will come against me?’ (Jeremiah 49:4) And in the Song of Songs, the lover urges his mate to allow him to enter her from behind: “Draw me after you, let us make haste.” (Song of Solomon, 1:4)
Yahoo Answers discussion about Anal Sex
Anal Sex Statistics for Christians
As posted by: Leaderu.com
Although it is true that some heterosexuals practice occasional oral-to-genital sex (almost 50% and rising) and occasional genital-to-anal sex (about 5%), these are in fact the typical, not occasional, practices of homosexual men. Statistically, oral-to-genital sex is regularly practiced by 95% of gay men, genital-to-anal by 40-70%, manual-to-anal by 40-60%, and oral-to-anal by 30-40%. Variations on these techniques include a number of sado-masochistic behaviors which I will not detail, practiced by 25%; and group sex, in which at least 30% of gay males are experienced. Most of these numbers are at least ten times the rate of the heterosexual population; that is, they are not even remotely comparable.
References To THe Bible Saying Anal Sex Is Not Okay
Form Discussion at NairaLand about whether a href=”http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-4321.0.html”>Anal Sex Is Okay Within Christian Marriage
Forum Discussion at Discover Vancouver about Anal Sex In Christian Marriage The point here being made is again similar to my comments I posted here that anal sex is easily associated with homosexuality, and makes it much harder for Christians to grasp the concept of anal sex being acceptable in marriage.
Anal sex is “out of character” for a Christian marriage: The Bible instructs husbands to love and nurture their wives. Paul wrote, “28Even so husbands should love their wives as [being in a sense] their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself. 29For no man ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and carefully protects and cherishes it, as Christ does the church” (Ephesians 5:28-29 NIV). Paul characterized the husband’s love for his wife as Christ’s love for the church. Such love is to be pure, without any hint of lust.
An appropriate application of this love is to the sexual relationship. Unfortunately, pornography has helped inspire many people to crave sex acts that they might not normally desire. Under the guise of keeping the marriage sex life exciting, many couples succumb to “lust-based” sex (instead of “love-based” sex) by experimenting with perversions like anal sex. For example, A husband who pursues anal sex against his wife’s wishes is being motivated by lust, not love. Furthermore, by having anal sex, he is putting his wife at high risk of contracting various infections. His wife may agree to participate, but most likely only to appease her husband. When this happens, sex becomes more of a spectacle for the husband’s gratification than a mutually-enjoyable, loving experience. As love is removed from the relationship, sex will likely require greater levels of the bizarre to produce gratification (e.g. sex toys, swinger clubs, group sex, bestiality, bondage, fetishes, etc.).
I think I covered a lot of points about Anal Sex in Christian Marriage in the previous post but I still think it is worth doing further research. There is no way there will ever be an end to the debate of whether Anal Sex is right or wrong because there are too many different types of religous types of people who are actually in religion for different reasons. There are many different variables that make up a person’s worldview about the same subject, even though we’re all reading the same bible, and probably getting the same basic Christian teaching at our church. Pastor’s aren’t talking about it, so for hundreds, thousands, of years – we have formulated our own beliefs about what is right and wrong about having Anal Sex.
The Christian Pleasure System is designed to show you have to get the most out of your sex life, but it probably is not the best book to give you a 100% guaranteed “yes you can do this and you won’t go to hell” type of outlook because that is not what we are here for and that is not what our system is about. Our system, including the 7 Rules For Christian Sexprovide you with the techniques to enjoy sexual mastery, sexual freedom, within your Christian Marriage and everything we mention is backed by Scriptures before we even go into any details.
On another note, I think there are ways to make anal sex enjoyable and in the same way that vaginal sex hurt a woman on her first time; that same sentiment will be felt during Christian Anal Sex. Many women do actually enjoy it and some even prefer it over vaginal sex, and those people are no different than you or I.
December 9th, 2006 at 9:38 am
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September 12th, 2007 at 10:14 pm
my husband and i have tried anal sex and I found it enjoyable, but struggling with the “i don’t want to burn in hell” question. we decided to pray about what was right for us since scripture is not clear in regards to a man and woman in marriage (other than the marriage bed is undefiled). I found your answers the most biblically balanced. However, in my search, I have found sites that condemn everything and it almost seems as though sex with your mate is supposed to be something you endure because you eventually need it in order to not be tempted. To me, being with your mate to “keep from falling into temptation” can turn into using each other as an instrument and that is a sin. Paul said that the relationship between Jesus and the church is like the marriage between a man and a woman. It was considered a great mystery. I would hope that the Lord would want communion with us (and I mean that in the purest sense of the word) because of His great affection for us and not because it is something that must be endured. Thanks for being willing to tackled intimacy issues and keeping things in scripture.